People Bondage

Often times we worry, think, over consider and deliberate what other people think, say, might say and how they will react. This to me is people bondage. And trust me on this one, I’ve been there. 

People bondage: is it real, healthy or unhealthy? Are you in it? Have you triumphed  in this area? I will let you decide. For now hear my honest opinion. People here means anyone other than YOU, and bondage: control over.

By letting people exercise control over your Life’s actions or inations, you rob yourself the opportunity to be: 

1. Unique: yea you just join the trend, do what’s in vogue, have a lot cheers, company, likes and thumbs up but deny your special features, traits, gifts and abilities which are peculiar to you and will make a difference first in your life and the People.

2. Peaceful: nothing is as golden as peace of mind. Sleeping off as soon as you hit the bed, smiling when you meditate on the day’s events, gracefully declining attractive offers that don’t align with your goals and daily choosing to let criticism spur NOT destroy your resolve. People’s control over you takes that away, this is something that can’t be well expressed verbally but you’re certain that you’re troubled within even though you are in comfort and everyone’s good book.

3. Victorious: nothing is victorious about doing what everyone wants you to do or thinks you are doing well when you know your heart is not in it and you long for something else you’re not doing for some lame reasons.

4. Successful: a lot of folks call different things success! Whatever you think it is, if it just happened, you didn’t have a plan or had and didn’t put in the necessary work or you did but there is still no satisfaction in your heart and you can’t even beat your chest in pride in the presence of those who know how it happened. ITS NOT SUCCESS.

5. Better: its a pity that we often pride ourselves in been better than other people and task ourselves to be better than others- my friend, that’s people bondage. If you are in it, you can not be better than YOU. The you that you were last  year, month, week or even days. There is no yardstick because all along you’ve never been truly you.

6. Brave: you robe yourself in fear which my dear is the devil’s main game. You walk with your head not so high, worrying of what People say, think, imagine or can possibly do. You let your dreams pass, watch you abilities waste and have endless wish lists and blame games.

7. Taught: You rob yourself of the opportunity of being taught by your own bravery, failures and decisions.

Now that you know what People bondage robs anyone of, are you in it? or have you truly triumphed? are you gonna continue robbing YOU? Or will you choose to be at peace, win your own battles, achieve what you intentionally set out to do, learn from your failures, refuse to stay down,  live in today, let yesterday go and not let tomorrow hinder you? 

You may have a degree, two or more but permit me to ask if you are been taught by Life’s greatest teacher- the Holy spirit or People? Do you know it all or are you really teachable? Are you open to new ideas and information or do you bask in what you used to know or in ignorance? Remember ‘I get am before no b property’ and yes this applies to knowledge; learning never ends. By now you know if you’re in it or the other category which I call Self Bondage.

If you are in it: Start by taking back the power you’ve given people OVER your life. I said over, not in. Only God has that control and power over you. People might have authority or great influence in an aspect of your life for a SEASON in order for you to achieve your set goals and for your good. This is legitimate and part of the process of becoming the better you. But NO person, people, human or spiritual being has POWER OVER your “period of time of being alive; experiencing life and your ability to change and grow”_this is what Merriam-Webster Dictionary says the English word ‘ life’ means.

The Bible says that Life is Jesus and you know that no people or person has power over Him. If you’re a believer, He lives in you, and has given you the power to be freely and victoriously You. All you need is to consciously believe that and start acting like it; like the person who The One nobody has control over lives in and has given all power to be You. Just you, not your mentor, parent, sibling, friend, pastor, Imam or role model. You! 

So what’s your stand? Is people bondage real, healthy or unhealthy? I know  its real and unhealthy, I’ve triumphed over it and I’m celebrating being me, looking forward and conciously working hard to become the better me!


If you are not still convinced that People bondange is a Pratical Thief and thus disagree here is my suggestion- Sit down and write Yourself a Five page argument on: 

1. Why you can not and do not have all control over yourself 

2. Why you must continue thinking of what people think, do, might say or have said in order to do what you’ve always wanted to do and what you’re capable of doing 

“with the dictionary and the Bible as references because I think your argument will be in English and I know that the latter is The truth” _Then and only then should you continue to rob yourself, deny this world of you and remain in People bondage.

PS: If and when you write, I would like to get a copy of your argument via peaceiruomablog@gmail.com

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Sincerely, Peace Iruoma

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